Dear Heloise: My husband and I were so excited about our trip to New Zealand that we posted on our social media a lot of information about when we’d leave and return.

While we were gone, we were robbed. Burglars broke into the house and took our computers, jewelry, golf clubs, appliances and more. They managed to disengage the alarm system to get inside. Stealing wasn’t enough for them. They broke mirrors, sprayed obscenities on our walls and slashed open all the sofa pillows. The damage and theft ran into thousands of dollars. A word to the wise from the police: Never, never post travel information on any social media until after you return, and maybe not even then. — Henry and Evelyn B. in Indiana

Dear Heloise: We have a digital assistant, which is a voice-directed device. Once you activate this device with your wake-up word, remember that it’s always listening. (It has to in order to function.) When you talk, it sends data into the cloud, where it could possibly be hacked. Yes, there are privacy settings, including turning off the microphone, which defeats the purpose of having one. — Jason D., Amherst, Ohio

Dear Heloise: What is the difference between hospice and palliative care? Or is there any difference? — Nanette B., Hammond, La.

Hospice care is generally provided for patients at the end of their lives, or when doctors believe a patient has six months or less to live and if the illness has run its natural course.

Palliative care involves a team of medical personnel who will work closely with the patient’s doctor to help come up with a special plan to provide relief from the symptoms of a severe illness, regardless of the diagnosis. — Heloise

THREE MAJOR LESSONS

Dear Heloise: I’ve made three major discoveries in my life over the span of a 22-year marriage:

* Life will never go according to plan. No matter how carefully you set down your goals and plans, things will come up out of the blue that you never expected. Learn to roll with it.

* A partner/spouse should act like a partner. This may not always be 50/50, but no matter what, you should not do it all. A healthy relationship works best on a give-and-take basis.

* You’re not unusual — no one has it all figured out, and no one has a perfect life.

— Mia G., Bonners Ferry, Idaho

QUICK HINT

Dear Heloise: I keep a wet, neatly folded paper towel in a pill bottle in my purse and use it to wipe off my hands, then I toss it in the trash. — Sadie L., Griffin, Ga.

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